I was proud of myself. I started sharing my little posts on Facebook ... and Twitter. And there it was, the beginning of the end.
At first I was so excited. People started reading my blog and following it - following ME - on Twitter and I thought to myself, "This is cool. People can relate to my posts! Maybe I can do this thing!" Alas, I have no idea whether people can relate to my posts or not because, up to the day I stopped reading my Twitter notifications and stopped being interested in whether anyone was following me, every person who followed me or liked (or whatever you do on Twitter to express approval) my posts did so because they wanted to TEACH me, SELL to me, DEVELOP me through their blogging education programs, help me to be a better public personality in some way or other. Perhaps I should have been grateful that so many people took an interest in how I would do as a blogger; after all, it's cool when people care about you. Right?
No. It's not. All I gained was frustration at notification after notification after notification that someone - some blogging "instructor" or "guru" - wanted to help me figure it all out. Dozens and dozens of articles and tips and offers came at me every day. It was the exact same experience as walking into a furniture store and EVERY sales clerk running up to me at once with their questions and their offers. It was maddening! I'm ONE person! I wanted to write my blog posts and perhaps reach a person or two with my thoughts; perhaps cause a person or two to think about the subject a little. Instead, I was swarmed by people who just wanted to use me to promote THEIR blogging and THEIR businesses.
Now look, if this offends anyone, well, I guess it is what it is. But maybe it wouldn't hurt to actually check out a person's blog with genuine interest. No time for that? Then maybe it wouldn't hurt to just leave them alone and let them get their feet wet before you start pushing them off the diving board!
I've wanted to write this post for a long time; about three months, apparently. I just couldn't bring myself to put my thoughts out there once more as shark bait for life coaches and wealth advisors and daily blog tips. I needed to get my bearings.
If this blog becomes anything one day, so be it. If it doesn't, so be it. But do me a favor: if you like my posts, reach out and follow or like or whatever because you like them; comment if you have something to say. But please, please don't swarm me with your unsolicited guidance. If this post annoys you, unfollow/unlike me; you'd be doing us both a favor. I'd rather be read by no one at all than by people with only an ulterior motive. If you're a real teacher or a real life coach or a real advisor, you'll know that no one writes their dissertation on their first day of college; if they had to, they'd quit - and so would you.